The Burden of Loneliness

The burden Loneliness and being alone

Loneliness is a part of growth.
Those of us who are more then one child in a family will identify with the feeling of loneliness (of course, for an infant this feeling doesn’t have a name) you felt when your mom came home with a new baby? You were looking forward to having a brother or sister but then when the baby is born everyone’s attention is focused on the baby. I remember how confused I was; now I felt like an outsider and I did not understand at all what was happening, why? Because nobody prepared me for the role I would play in the new baby’s life, which of course is sacrificing or giving p your right to attention for a few days and having to be quite and not ask for anything. Well, in many ways as an adult we are expected to behave in much the same way when something happens that makes us feel lonely.
• Growth requires giving up your rights
Giving up our rights is difficult but very necessary in order for us to grow in to healthy adults.
1. Give up the right to be right.
2. to be loved
3. to win
4. to benefits
5. to have our way
It’s a lonely place, giving up your rights causes you to feel deprived and depression sets in. But soon we see that it helped us grow.
• Growth requires quietness
Being quite is for many people a very difficult thing to do; we always think we know the answer to everything happening around us and about our lives. God sais in Psalm 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God”.
1. Trust that God is able to help us.
2. Learn to be quite, practice stillness before God.
3. Read His word and learn His will.

Loneliness and our state of mind:

There are some emotional and psychological changes that the body go through when we are lonely.
1. Depression: a state of sadness. Long period of inactivity
2. loss of appetite: No desire for food
3. sleepy: to much sleep
4. lose of sleep: insomnia
5. forgetting stuff
6. tardiness
7. Backsliding from God

Finding a place to build you up

Find a place to build you into a new person with the help of a list.
Making the list: ask yourself these questions, please answer truthfully.
• What brought me to where I am right now? Write down in detail take time to think carefully and write down everything you remember.
• How does it really make me feel? Take time out, relax and allow yourself to feel. Don’t be afraid to feel the raw emotion of remembering and facing the truth of what happened to you. Allow yourself to cry, don’t hold back.
• What do I want to do about it? Whether it a right though or a wrong one write it down be honest with yourself about how you feel. Now, write down the Pro’s and Con’s about what you want to do about what happened. After you have had time to think write yourself a note: Why you will do it. Or why you will not do it.
• Pray – write down what you want to say to God. Writing it down will help you express all that you really feel. Read over you have written a few times. Ask yourself
• How do I feel now, write down you feelings.
• My way forward: write down your way forward. Scriptures to help: Romans 12:1-2 and Psalm 23 study these and take from the scriptures lessons for your daily walk with the Lord.

In the Presence of God

The Joy of Gods presence when Gods children are united He commands a blessing!
• Psalm 133:1-3 behold how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! It is like the precious oil upon the head, running down on the beard, the beard of Aaron, running down on the edge of his garments. It is like the dew of Herman, descending upon the mountain of Zion; for there the Lord commanded a blessing- life forevermore.
How amazing is that! Who would not want a blessing from God? Well, then we must be united in fellowship and in worship and focuses on God.

The counsel of the Lord stands forever!
• Psalm 33:10-11 The Lord brings the counsel of the nations to nothing; He makes the planes of the people of no effect. The counsel of the Lord stands forever, the plans of His heart to all generations.
No government or people is above the Lord, if anyone makes laws against Gods laws those laws will be brought to nothing by the Lord! Only Gods law will stand.

The Lord who Preserves and Prospers His people Blessing!
• Psalm 144: 11-15 Rescue me and deliver me from the hand of foreigners (sinners), whose mouth speaks vain words, and whose right hand is a right hand of falsehood- That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as pillars, sculptured in palace style; that our barns may be full, supplying all kinds of produce; that our sheep may bring forth thousands and ten thousands in our fields; that our oxen may be well-laden. That there be no outcry in our streets. Happy are the people who are in such a state; Happy are the people whose God is the Lord!
Wow! Who wouldn’t want to be blessed in this way!

God’s perfect knowledge of mankind He knows us personally!
• Psalm 139: 1-24 verses 1. O lord, you have searched me and known me.
Please read this scripture and study it, it’s a beautiful passage of how God knows each of His children and the knowledge of this is too hard for human comprehension.

The Lord we Trust our help forever!
• Psalm 146:1-10 verses 3-5 does not put your trust in princes, nor in the sons of man, in whom there is no help. His spirit departs, he returns to his earth; in that very day his plans perish. Happy is he who has the God of Jacob for his help, whose hope is in the Lord his God.
People fail, they get tired and give up on you when you need them and never show any remorse when they disappoint you. God is faithful and ever aware of what we need willing and able to help us no matter what the need.